Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Tuesday March 17 Meeting Plans in Centreville, MD and announcing our April 21 Special Presentation


PFLAG Chestertown Chapter will meet on Tuesday March 17, 2015 in Centreville, MD at the Queen Anne’s County Arts Centre with our program beginning at 7 pm. The QAC Arts Centre is located at 206 S Commerce Street.  

We will have signs directing you to our meeting space inside the main entrance.  At 6 pm our chapter leaders will be meeting to discuss our annual chapter leadership election and upcoming event plans.  At 7 pm our program will focus on the status of various Gay Straight Alliance student led groups in area schools.  Anyone having an interested or currently working with the LGBTQ youth and their allies in area schools is especially encouraged to attend.  We invite you to bring in interested teachers, youth leaders from other organizations and parents who want to share their ideas for helping our youth network within our community and school settings.  Both meeting times are open for all to attend.

In April our monthly meeting is a special panel presentation event that will be marketed widely especially to our area teachers and school administrators. Please read below as we announce the fabulous panel of parents and school leaders participating on April 21st.



And don't forget about our new First Friday Open House invitations for the months ahead.  We had a good turnout in February and March.  The networking has begun!  Thanks everyone.  Keep up the great work...our community needs your involvement.


Wednesday, February 11, 2015

February Events Continue

We enjoyed last weekend in Chestertown with their version of Mardi Gras celebrations.

The PFLAG/GSA "Umbrella Krewe" entry in the Chester Gras parade won Third Place!  The photo shows why….what a colorful bunch!  Thanks to all the participants who marched, cheered and encouraged our Mardi Gras Second Line Strut!  Thanks also to those who attended the Mardi Gras Dance on Saturday evening.

The February First Friday gathering of the “Umbrella Krewe” of the Gay Straight Alliance clubs also went well.  We had students and adults attending and 5 schools were represented.  They included: Gunston School, Kent County High School and Middle school, Chesapeake and Washington College.  Thanks everyone…more plans are in the works.  Mark your calendars now for First Fridays in Chestertown.  The generous hospitality of Bradley Lake will continue to give us all a “place to hang out together” from 5-7 pm on those dates. 

Next Tuesday February 17th is our regular third Tuesday of the month meeting. (It also happens to be this year’s “Fat Tuesday” date.)  Our program for this meeting will be to view the 23 minute DVD “Faces and Facets of Transgender Experience.”  We also have new materials from PFLAG National to share about being a Transgender Ally.  We continue to offer time for socializing and support as a part of these gatherings.  This meeting will take place at UUCR 914 Gateway Drive in Chestertown at 7 pm. Hopefully our combined plans with other local groups and neighboring locations will be set soon!  





Wednesday, February 4, 2015

February Fun begins with Mardi Gras weekend in Chestertown



Hi Everyone, 

Let's have some fun this weekend!  Encourage our youth by marching in the Mardi Gras parade with them on Saturday morning...details below for Friday and Saturday February 6-7, 2015

Kent County Youth Gay Straight Alliance and PFLAG Chestertown Activities and Mardi Gras Celebrations

First Friday Feb 5

5-7 pm “Open House
to welcome youth forming the new
Kent County GSA Umbrella Krewe
at the office of Bradley Lake
320 High Street, Suite A
(above the Nearly New Shop in Fountain Park)
Refreshments will be served.
In addition to meeting and greeting youth from various area schools, we will prepare and share costumes/masks/decorations for anyone interested in marching with PFLAG in the Sat AM Mardi Gras Parade.

Saturday Feb 6

12:30 Line up, 1 pm Mardi Gras Parade beginning at the Kent County Court House Parking lot.  Masks, throws, décor provided….just show up or bring and wear your own costume.  Find us by looking for our Rainbow and Mardi Gras Flags.
1-5 pm “Chester Gras!”
Live Music, Face Painting, Gumbo Cook off Competition under the heated tent in front of the Garfield Center for the Arts on High Street.  Sponsored by Peoples Bank, this event benefits the Kent County Backpack Program.

7 pm Doors Open 8 pm Music begins for the
Mardi Gras Dance Party located at the Garfield Center for the Arts.
http://www.garfieldcenter.org/gcaevent/mardi-gras-dance-party/
Costumes Encouraged, All ages welcome. King Cake served.
 Adult tickets $25 including a $5 donation to the Backpack program

PFLAG Chestertown will pay for student tickets reserved in advance (a $10 value). Call Linda Dutton at 443 480 3138 for information.


Yes, we will be having a monthly meeting on Tuesday February 17th!  More about that in the next post.....

Friday, January 16, 2015

Hi friends,

A week ago today many of us gathered to celebrate the adventurous Brittian Family. Cindy and Susan, we are grateful to you both for so many contributions to our PFLAG Community. There are (and always will be) so many amazing stories to share when it comes to the both of you!  What a great surprise to have out of town PFLAG friends from Baltimore also attend your party!  If you haven’t seen the photos….we will post some on the website.

Since we are in the party mode….let’s keep going and focus on:

Chestertown’s Saturday February 7, “Chester Gras” activities followed by the 4th annual Mardi Gras Dance Party at the Garfield Center for the Arts. Many LGBTQ folks have requested a gay friendly dance!  This is your opportunity!  The  Chester Gras and MGDP events are truly a fun time, welcoming of all ages, stages and inclinations! Costumes are encouraged all day long.  





Our chapter is pleased to subsidize the ticket cost for any Gay Straight Alliance Youth who would like to attend the dance. This is a $10 value for you.  Please call Linda Dutton at 443 480 3138 to reserve your ticket.  We want our youth to network with other youth planning to attend from area schools.  Don't have a ride?  Reach out and we will try to help. Get creative and shock your parents by asking them to go to a dance party with you!  After arriving you both may simply become invisible to one another in the crowd full of costumes.    

We also want to encourage all ages in our chapter to participate in the Chester Gras Activities and Parade that afternoon.  The line up will take place in the Kent County Court House Parking Lot at 12:30 pm. The parade loops around Fountain Park beginning at 1 pm.  Our group will be obvious with our usual rainbow flag as well as some added Mardi Gras flags and umbrellas!
Just show up!  We will give you a mask or boa to wear and some goodies to throw.
Chester Gras is sponsored by Peoples Bank of Kent County and the proceeds from these events benefit the Backpack Program.

Gay Straight Alliance Youth:  We will also have our February 6 First Friday gathering at 5 pm in Chestertown.  Details to follow.

Yes, there is also a chapter meeting next week on Tuesday January 20th at 7 pm at UUCR. The address is 914 Gateway Drive, Chestertown, MD.  This month we will have an open discussion meeting with several new materials to share. Our PFLAG National office has sent us several copies of the new Guide to being a Trans Ally and we have many other new materials donated to our Resource Library by our friends and members.

We also have compiled several resources addressing personal safety and tips for knowing your rights in legal situations.  Remember, 2015 is our year to take better care of one another!  Next month we will be announcing our plans for Safe Space Trainings, coordinated plans among several area Gay Straight Alliances and topics planned for March and April monthly meetings.  

Thursday, January 8, 2015

2015, a year to continue: Be safe, care and work to "fix society" for ALL

2015 PFLAG Chestertown Chapter: Our year to learn to be safe and to care….”Fix Society” MORE.

Hi friends,

We have begun…but we must step up to be MORE caring as well as safe and sensitive.   
We are fortunate to live in beautiful, quiet and rural communities. Yet that rural quiet can lead to isolation, especially if you are young and/or without transportation. We know that we need one another and yet, we are often passive and lonely. Let’s try to “fix  society” as young Leelah Alcorn pleaded before her recent death.  Because of the tragedies and known dangers we share, let’s make 2015 a year of community building…of support groups….of reaching out…..of listening to and helping one another.  Let’s model it and work to make sure that everyone “we” know…also knows how to reach out for a friend or family member…for fun and for facing our fears. 

Tomorrow, January 9, we start with a farewell to a family who has generously shared these personal qualities with our community.  Cindy and Susan Brittain are moving on to new adventures and we will help honor them with an open house from 6-9 pm at Emmanuel Hall, on Cross St, across from Fountain Park in Chestertown. 

Our list of upcoming events and opportunities continues to grow…see the calendar on our new website: PFLAG Chestertown.com

Check out the important resources from PFLAG National at PFLAG.org.  Recent focus on support for Trans Kin has created a wonderful new publication. 

Throughout 2015 we will continue to hold monthly meetings at various locations.  Our blind copy email list continues to grow…and so does your opportunity to talk about what you see happening with LGBT folks of all ages in our community.  Among ourselves and our with friends, family, allies we encourage and want our LGBT community to be fully involved and out as they choose to be…or not!  We keep our email list blind intentionally so the individual choice is always respected.

So mark your calendars for the Third Tuesdays of 2015. Chestertown Chapter leaders meet at 6pm and our membership program begins at 7 pm. June, July and August we will encourage your participation in area PRIDE events as well as local fun such as our membership picnic and marching in the Rock Hall July 4th parade.

We will continue to network with several local and regional community organizations.  Watch for announcements about upcoming fun events at the Garfield Center for the Arts and special First Fridays!  Sign up and plan something for the meet up group: The Rainbow Alliance of Delmarva. Watch for our involvement in new Gay Straight Alliance groups in local schools, programs at Washington College and Chesapeake College. You will see our presence in our local libraries, churches and any organizations you want our help with!  As we, PFLAG Chestertown members and friends, continue to identify ourselves proudly in our various local roles, we create more awareness, more comfort and eventually hope to make “LGBT” an irrelevant label. We can see the day when fairness and equality for all is possible on the Eastern Shore!

Yet in 2015 our work and conversations need to continue. We will talk about:  personal safety, self care and care for others, how to react when stopped by authorities or police, how to strengthen your local support systems, how to speak up when you see or experience injustice.  We all need to feel safe and welcome everywhere in our communities.  ALL of us.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Holiday Greetings & Activities including a Farewell Open House to our dear Brittain Family

 Our dear friends Susan and Cindy Brittain are heading out of town on a new journey.
 The Chestertown community of their friends are holding a 
Farewell Open House 
WHEN: Friday the 9th of January, 2015 at 6 to 9 PM
WHERE: 101 N. Cross St., Chestertown, MD 21620
Emmanuel Church Hall
Live Music and Light Fare will be provided to accompany your farewell wishes.
If you would like to contribute a beverage to share, please bring them to the beverage table.
If you would like to share your musical gifts, please bring along your voice or instrument.  
Philip Dutton and the Alligators will be on hand to get the music started.
We know some of our generous guests may want to bring a send off gift. We gave this a lot of thought and simply request that you help us lighten our load, and appreciate that you consider only gasoline gift cards and/or a note/photograph for the road. 
Absolutely no "things”
Snow Date Plan: Sunday 11 January 6 to 9 PM
Please check the Brittain’s Facebook or PFLAGChestertown.com or
                 call 443 480 3138 (Linda Dutton) for a voicemail message if the snow date is on.

 So....what else is cookin?  There are soooo many ideas and opportunities available to us in 2015.  We have a great year ahead!

As a follow up to recent vigil held in Chestertown, I want to share the article below.  It was shared with me by our friend Doug Rose.  Here is the background...

Representing PFLAG Chestertown, I was proud to participate in organizing and speaking at the Vigil held in Fountain Park on Friday December 5, 2014.  My decision to participate using our PFLAG Chestertown Chapter name was made without time for discussion. This article from the Huffington Post explains why “my gut” felt it was the right thing to do as an LGBT advocacy organization. 

I want to acknowledge the support of the Unitarian Universalists of the Chester River (UUCR) as well. Their social justice work is important locally. (They provide our chapter meeting and resource library space.) The use of their Standing on the Side of Love.org banner and the information it shares on the corresponding website is non denominational. It is a visible tool offered to our community by UUCR for anyone or group who would like to borrow it.
You will see it when you attend the annual Chester Valley Ministerial Association (CVMA) MLK 7 AM Breakfast in Rock Hall on Monday January 19th. Tickets are still only $10…buy them at the door, or call Carolyn Brooks at 443 480 0128 for more information.

In next week's email I will update you about several more local opportunities for building friendships and socializing while we continue to work together for healthy and safe communities on the beautiful Eastern Shore.  Read on.... 
  
Writer, educator, and activist
Founder of The Counter Narrative Project. Writer and activist, interested in the intersections of race, gender,and sexuality. Follow me on twitter: @CharlesStephen2

An Open Letter to Mainstream LGBT Organizations That Have Remained Silent on Black Lives Mattering

Posted: 12/16/2014 8:59 am EST Updated: 12/16/2014 8:59 am EST

Many Americans seem to only remember one of the two namesakes of the 2009federal hate-crime bill signed into law by President Obama: Matthew Shepard. Similarly, many Americans also seem to only remember the bill as the Matthew Shepard Act. However, this abbreviated mention conveniently leaves out the other person for whom the act is named: James Byrd Jr.
Shepard was a white, gay college student who was brutally assaulted by two homophobes near Laramie, Wyoming, and died six days following the heartrending attack. His death now haunts our collective consciousness, reminding us that hate against LGBT people might surely mean death.
James Byrd Jr., on the other hand, was a Black man from Texas. Byrd was ruthlessly murdered by three men, two of whom identified as white supremacists. His ankles were chained to the back of a pickup truck, and he was dragged approximately three miles along an asphalt road in Jasper, Texas. In the process, his head and right arm were severed from his body. His torso was eventually left in front of a cemetery that mostly contained the bodies of other Black people. Whereas Shepard was murdered because of his perceived sexual identity, Byrd was killed because he was Black.
Why did we feel the need to write this open letter to mainstream LGBT organizations with a reference to the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act? Why have we felt the need to point to the failure on the part of the American populace to rightly acknowledge the atrocities that ended the lives of both namesakes? Because it illuminates the dangers of focusing on one type of identity-based violence -- the violence that impacts LGBT people -- while willfully ignoring the police and vigilante violence that impacts Black queer- and trans-identified people, as well as all Black people: Mike Brown's bloodied and lifeless body was left on a hot Missouri street for 4.5 hours; the world bore witness to video clips of Eric Garner uttering his final words, "I can't breathe!", as a police officer choked him to death; Marlene Pinnock was brutally pounded by a white, male police officer on a highway in the middle of the day; and Black trans women like Erycka Morgan and Islan Nettles, and many whose names we do not lift up, continue to be viciously attacked and killed.
We can no longer sit idly by as you, mainstream LGBT organizations, center your movements and advocacy work on some within our varied communities but not others. We are no longer OK with the mainstream LGBT organizations among you who signal your complicity in anti-Black violence through your loud silence and deliberate ignoring of the types of systemic, institutionalized forms of anti-Black racism that negatively impact Black queer and trans people (and all Black people), disallow Black well-being, and deaden us.
And while there have been some awareness and recognition of the fact that anti-Black racism materializes in ways that stifle Black freedom and lives, it is insufficient for LGBT organizations to merely acknowledge these horrific events. The morally courageous thing to do is take action. And organizations like the Audre Lorde Project, the Anti-Violence Project, the Sylvia Rivera Law Project, and INCITE! cannot do the necessary intersectional work alone.
We are calling for a bigger commitment and a more radically inclusive vision from LGBT organizations. We are calling for an agenda and a commitment to combating racism as forcefully and unshakably as your commitment to standing against homophobia. We are calling for a new, multivariate LGBT agenda that acknowledges and advances recognition of the humanity and suffering of Black people. We are calling for an agenda that not only expresses awareness but demonstrates, through tangible actions, a value for Black life. And should you not, we can only conclude that Black lives do not matter to you.
Movements are not built on the backs of the most vulnerable in the service of the needs and whims of the most privileged. Movements are built and succeed when they begin at the most marginal of spaces -- always evaluating who's positioned in the center of power and always ensuring that asymmetrical power relations are corrected so that we might exist in a more equitable society.
Some of us within the LGBT spectrum are Black. Our lives matter too.
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